Sunday, October 10, 2010

How do we make it work?

A couple of days ago Julianna and I shared with each other some thoughts about why we feel we are ‘the right one’ for each other. Without going into details, as they would not mean as much to the world as they do to us personally, I would like to take the opportunity to share some of the things that have helped us make this relationship blossom.

If you have read any other part of our blog, or you already know Julianna, you should be able to tell what a wonderful and special woman she is. She has always put me before herself and constantly expressed how much she cares for me, believes in me and loves me. Realizing that although our backgrounds are more similar than we could have thought, there still is a difference in our approach to life, and so she has always made an effort to understand my opinions. Never has she sought to put me down or ridicule the way I think.

Gentle communication, expressed belief and trust, daring to share concerns and daring to listen to concerns and accepting advice are key ingredients that practiced on a daily basis have made us grow closer together. Julianna is a true friend to whom I can trust my heart. In fact, I think my heart is taken better care of in her hands than in my own.

And then there are the funny little quirks that add spice to life. They are such great opportunities for us to grow, but also to feel that the other one is a real person with real challenges. Sometimes in moments like these we feel closer to each other than ever before. It brings me comfort to know that Julianna understands that I am not perfect, and that she still loves me!

2 comments:

  1. A number of years ago a woman told me that "Julianna was the most genuine person/friend she had ever met/had!" It seems you, Tarjei, have also discovered that about Julianna. May I also say "she has 'met-her-match' in the genuine category." What beautiful insights you have given about your feelings for the woman you love and in answer to 'how the two of you make it work!'

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  2. Thank you so much for your kind comments, Diane!

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